Earlier, we explored the grandparent child care option. We looked at the advantages and disadvantages of using this option. Now we shall focus on key things to consider with choosing this child care option.
Considerations for Grandparent Child Care Option
If grandma is traveling from another country that requires a visa; make sure she sends in her application early enough. Also make sure the visa requirements are strictly adhered to, in order to avoid visa refusal.
I remember when my mother in-law was coming, she got denied because we didn’t provide some documents in her visa application. We were disappointed but we went ahead to reapply this time with all necessary documents. Thankfully she was given her visa on her 2nd application.
My mum in-law’s visa incident dented our childcare plans a bit so we had to use a childminder for 2 months while waiting. So always have a backup plan!
When using grandparent child care option, it is assumed that grandma is doing it for free hence it is possible to take grandma for granted. So please remember to “pay” grandma financially (where possible) and/or in other ways.
Pay for grandma’s ticket if she is flying down, give grandma time off, take her out to see the city and buy her gifts.
I imagine that most grandmothers don’t mind taking care of their grandchildren but we need to show our appreciation. Surprise grandma, let her know she is valued.
A few grandmas might ask to be paid. So it is best to know upfront what her expectations are.
Have an agreement on how long this grandparent child care arrangement will be for. If grandma is visiting, discuss how long she would stay for.If she lives close by- will it be an ongoing arrangement? Will she help with baby-sitting as well?
We shouldn’t forget grandma has her own life, is probably working and needs to take time off work. If grandpa is alive, he has to be considered as well; after all you are taking his wife away from him! 🙂
Set expectations and boundaries from the onset. Make it clear that grandma is coming to help out with the new baby. I have heard of stories, where grandma felt she was coming over for a holiday. Let mum/mum in-law know that the time to rest will come but for now you need help with the baby.
If you will be dropping your little one off at grandma’s, provide all the necessary items she would need to provide care- milk, diapers, fruits, toys, books, change of clothing, cot and any other items your little one will need when over at grandma’s. Make sure grandma’s place is childproofed.
With older children, make sure you are on the same page when it comes to discipline. Most grandparents want to spoil their grandchildren but if your child misbehaves they must be aware of what you expect and stick to it for consistency.
Is Grandparent Child care Option for you?
Depending on your family situation, this option may not be suitable for you. However, when grandparents are willing, capable and able to help with childcare, I highly recommend this option. As we know, taking care of a child can be demanding.
Some grandparents may even decide to make this “job” ongoing by registering as childminders.
Mums, have you used grandparent child care option before? What was your experience? We would love to hear from you in the comment section below.
